Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Into Each Life Some Rain Must Fall


Two months from now, I was supposed to run the Skyline to the Sea trail marathon. Not only that, but I was supposed to meet for the first time Jill, Chris K, Patrick, and Kate, blog buddies all. Running in the California sunshine through redwoods on a trail to the sea sounded like a great way to spend a Sunday morning.

But it was not to be. Due to family obligations, I won't be travelling to participate. Of course for a few moments I was upset and was fearful of letting the others know. But you know what? There's a rainbow that came along after the initial rain. Not a rainbow like Matty B might paint, but a deeper appreciation of what's really important, and that's family. Pretty much yearly monthly weekly daily I resolve to be a better husband and father, and I think this is a positive first step.

Finding balance in life, family, work, and training is often difficult. Prioritizing is an everyday evaluation of what's important. As a typical selfish individual, I usually put myself first. Unfortunately, as a father and husband, that's not always the best thing to do. To Patrick, Chris, Kate, and Jill, I apologize that I made plans and am unable to carry them out. But family comes first.

43 comments:

  1. Family comes first...there will be other races! Cool pic BTW...

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  2. ::hugs:: I'm sorry you will have to miss this race but I'm glad you put family first.

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  3. Thank you for the continued honest and sincere posts. It's great to come here as a reality check of what's important! Always one of my fav's!

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  4. While it sucks that those plans have been changed, you are a good man for choosing the right path. Family first, man!

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  5. "Family, Career, Spare time and Training" ... damn, I should write a book... (notice what is first and what is last, but all are important?)

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  6. you have your priorities in place my friend. husband first, dad second.
    let's face it.. you can't very well be an effective and balanced farther, if the first one isn't in check.

    xo

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  7. That is a pity but that is life. I must admit I would never have expected anything different from you. I also make these choices from time to time and never regret it.

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  8. Yes, it's true, life happens and priorities like family need to come first!! Sounds like you made the right choice. Although I know you're really not going b/c you're afraid of Chris K and his muscles (and bracelet) and manly ways.

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  9. There will be plenty of other cool races and blogger meet ups... Family first :)

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  10. I hear you. I just had to mark a cool local race off my calendar so I could take my son to a college orientation. It's a good reminder to our families as well as ourselves that they are what's most important...even if it stings a little to walk that out. Btw...if you already bought your ticket/registered for the race, feel free to give them to me so there's still an Illinois blogger there. :D

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  11. Kovas,
    You're a badas$. Family is super important and as my family is about to grow I'm really beginning to question the amount of the fun stuff I used to do and ways that it can overlap with my new life.

    I know, life with baby hasn't begun yet, but you've set a really good example for us family peeps.

    Keep rocking, K!

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  12. you are so right, family comes first. i have had to say no to a lot of things lately because i realized this priority and it's worth it

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  13. You have made the right decision because family does come first. I am sure more opportunities will present themselves for bloggy meet-ups.

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  14. Kovas,
    I was trying to work out a way to meet all of you out a S2S, too, even though I can't run it (perhaps by volunteering). Sorry that you had to change your plans, but, there is no question that you are doing he right thing.
    And, yes, unless CA "falls into the ocean" ;)), S2S will always be there waiting for you when the time is right.
    Run well, Ann

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  15. Family is forever and who knows, other bloggers might just be creepy. Just kidding.

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  16. You are forgiven Kovas. Life happens. Family comes 1st, 2nd, and 3rd. If I run Chicago can I stay with you?

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  17. You've got your priorities right Kovas!

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  18. There will always be another race. Nice to see you putting family first.

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  19. Family always comes first, and you a wonderful person for recognizing it and reminding us all, Kovas.

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  20. You're spot on here Kovas. You're family is lucky to have a father and husband who feels this way!

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  21. This is so true. Running should be your passion, but should never come before your family. You guys will get the opportunity to meet up again sometime.

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  22. finding the balance between family and being active is something I deal with daily. Sorry you have to miss the race, but like you said, family comes first.

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  23. I was going to disagree with you just to be that guy, but I'd be on 22 other peoples shit lists. Yeah man, you made the right choice.

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  24. Family always comes first in my book too! I think you definitely made the right decision! Plus, there will always be other races to do! :)

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  25. That sucks, but as others have said, great that you're choosing family first. Don't worry, there are more races :)

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  26. Well done. Though I know the "Kovas Krew" will be disappointment--family is first!! Duct tape never goes out of style does it?

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  27. You made the right choice!

    Maybe see you next year at S2S?

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  28. After reading articles a few weeks back about Exercise Widows, you made a good choice. Family should always come first.

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  29. Your kids and wife are lucky that you can make decision like this and put them first. Good for you. I am sure they will appreciate this. For sure you made the right choice. You guys will find another way to meet I am sure!

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  30. I'm
    super
    bummed
    for you. :(

    but you are a good dad/hubby. and that freaking rocks.

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  31. Dark socks, eh? I'll keep that in mind for next week. Though, my socks had butterflies on them, which made them pretty rad.

    And taking fashion pointers from Sky is risky business. He did about 10 push ups with a few inches of crack hanging out, demanding my husband take pictures. Which he did. But there's no way I'm attaching myself to them on the internet.

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  32. thank you for the honestly...so refreshing... :)

    sad about s2s...but i know how race plans can change on a dime because of family...sometimes that's why i'm so last minute in deciding from month to month what race to do...

    hope all is well with the fam!

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  33. well... I guess is part of life, and a very good one indeed.

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  34. well at least you only "usually" put yourself first where I ALWAYS put myself first! haha j/k (not)

    bummer you cannot go, family is numero uno!

    D

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  35. Family is truly what it's all about! In the end you don't regret putting your family first.

    I had a similar experience this past weekend. I was supposed to leave for a quick weekend of training for a volunteer position, and hours before I was to leave, my son had a seizure..needless to say, this mommy stayed home...Family...its what matters most!

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  36. Sorry to hear that you won't be able to make it out to meet everyone, but kudos to you for keeping your family first! There are so many people that forget their priorities and it's refreshing to see someone remember. A very admirable decision :)

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  37. Kovas, "As a typical selfish individual, I usually put myself first. Unfortunately, as a father and husband, that's not always the best thing to do" is one of the wisest things I've read in a long time. Thanks for keeping it real.

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  38. Family always comes first Kovas, this shows the type of individual you are - a wonderful husband, father and family man.

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  39. Family first, best choice. Just goes to show your excellent character (we all knew that anyway). I also liked the quote Joel used from your post.

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  40. That's a bummer, but I like where your priorities are!! Next: learning to paint like Matty B.

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  41. Sorry you are unable to make it! I agree, it's tough to find the balance. I may wind up having to ditch my goal race this year for a family matter.

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